“My interest in life comes from setting myself a huge, apparently un-achievable challenges and trying to rise above them.” – Sir Richard Branson
What do you think about that mindset? And how often do you think like Sir Richard Branson?
Well, you’re not alone.
When I looked upon myself a decade ago, I saw this frightened college girl, with too many unclear dreams in her head and none of them being achieved in reality.
I was afraid of everything you are/were afraid of:
- Other’s people judgement
- Especially of my father’s judgement
- Living a mediocre boring ‘9 to 5’ kinda life
And I had so many ideas on how to overcome those fears, I spent hours talking about them with my friends in between study rooms and bars. But I DID NOTHING to achieve those ideas and dreams.
It took me many years to develop the right mindset to stop fearing my own shadow, get my butt off the couch and actually do, what I came in this world to do.
I want to save you some time and help you discover and use the right strategy for achieving the right mindset for success. In any area of life too: relationships, career, healthy lifestyle, fit body etc.
I know many of you have maybe read a lot of simple strategies on how to transform your life. However many of those strategies were only read but not actually used. So, if you have to use only one strategy, this would be it.
Not because I’m writing these words, and certainly not because I invented it, but because the right mindset will give you three wonderful benefits in the end.
These benefits are:
If you use this strategy it will give you the courage to dream big and, not only to consider achieving your big goals in life but also to act upon them right away.
With consistent use of the right mindset, you’ll wake up one day realizing that you are unstoppable. You will find out that you don’t lack motivation or inspiration to achieve what you want; no matter what the obstacles are on the way to it.
3. Inner Strength
You know how we always rely on other people to pick us up when we fall? To give us support to achieve our dreams? And when they don’t, for whatever reason, we feel helpless?
Well, the right mindset will put the end to this. It will give you the inner strength to move you forward.
At least that’s what happened to me. I didn’t even realize it until one journalist asked me a question during an interview.
She: Who is your greatest support in life?
Me: Me! I give myself all the support I need to achieve whatever I lay my thoughts on.
Imagine my surprise, when the sentence came out of my mouth. It was beautifully shocking to both – me and the journalist.
Of course, this doesn’t mean your loved ones shouldn’t support you. You will, however, no longer be addicted to the support of others. Instead, you’ll have your own back whenever you need it, and the support of others will only be an additional advantage.
Please don’t mistake these simple steps as something that is really easy to do from day to day.
Although it is a simple strategy which will help you to take control over your own life, it has to be practiced in order to work for you.
Step 1. Be mindful about words (and thoughts) that sabotage you daily
“I can’t find a job.”
“I can’t travel (for whatever reason).”
“I just can’t lose weight.”
Does this seem familiar?
Henry Ford once said:
“Whether you think you can’t or you can you are right.”
And he was right. Every time you tell yourself that you cannot do something, you’re telling yourself a limiting story that prevents you from living the life you deserve.
Stories we tell ourselves will determine the life we live. And if you repeatedly insist on this limiting “I can’t” story, it will become the truth which won’t set you free, but imprison you in your own self-pity.
Luckily, if you want to change your life, all you have to do is to change your stories into something more inspiring. But first, you really have to start paying attention to the ones that limit you.
Be mindful about every thought you can catch which may influence your behavior in a bad way leading to a lack of inspiration, motivation or will to try achieving what you desire.
And after you catch “I can’t do” thoughts or words, move on to step 2…
Step 2. Change your “I can’t do it” mindset into “I don’t want to“ mindset
Maybe this will come as a shock to you, but it’s not true that you CAN’T DO something.
The truth is you DON’T WANT TO.
It’s not true you can’t find a job; the truth is that you don’t want to work doing any random job, but rather a job that you’ll enjoy.
It’s not true you can’t lose weight; the truth is you don’t want to invest your time or energy into dieting, eating healthy or working out.
It’s not true you can’t travel; the truth is you’re not willing to spend enough time browsing for the most convenient or cheapest travel opportunities.
So please be honest with yourself, and stop telling yourself you can’t do something when the real truth is that you don’t want to. And that’s alright if you don’t.
But when you repeatedly tell an “I can’t” story you are sending your subconscious mind a message translated into “I’m not capable” which leaves you feeling stuck.
And, even if you think you don’t have knowledge, or experience, or competence you won’t try to acquire them just because you think you can’t.
When you transform your “I can’t do it” mindset into “I don’t want to” mindset at least you have a choice. You are more than capable, but you CHOOSE not to.
Step 3. De-Clutter Your Life & Choose Your “I will do it”
The best way to do this is to create a list of all the things you think you can’t do, and to transform them into “I don’t want to”. Be sure to do this on paper and then consider how it feels, to be honest with yourself.
Maybe some things from the “I don’t want to” list will sound like the truth, and it’s time to cross them over.
Sometimes we think we have to do something, we create plans around it, and afterwards we beat ourselves up for not doing it. So this is a great opportunity to eliminate all those plans and dreams you truly don’t want anymore.
Maybe those plans were other people’s expectations from you. Maybe that was something you wanted in the past but doesn’t correlate with who you are right now, or who you want to become in the future.
And it is perfectly alright to erase them from your list.
Does that feel like a relief? I bet it does.
But some dreams on your list will still be in “I really want that dream to come true” field. So create another list only of these items beginning the sentence with “I will do/think/experience/say_____ (fill in the blank)”.
And then, DO IT!
In order to succeed in any area of life or to achieve any goal you need to actually DO something about it. But without the right winning “I will” mindset it will be much harder.
So, the more you practice this new mindset, the more you will become a master of your thoughts, your life, and your wonderful achievements.
You will have your own back and be unstoppable.
Now, go for it!
Are you struggling to adopt the right mindset for success? Leave a comment below.