How do you keep yourself going all the time? How do you motivate yourself? I just don’t have the motivation that you have. I always want to stop.
That’s usually what I hear from my clients. Usually some version of why they can’t but I can. Way to go, you just empowered me even more.
Okay, can I be honest with you for a minute? There is no such thing as motivation. Well maybe that’s an exaggeration but the point is motivation is so overrated it’s a sort of ridiculous.
Ready? Here’s why.
You see, motivation is great, but it can only take you so far. It will help you to get started no question. But will it help you to keep going? I don’t think so.
Think about it, how many people do you know, and maybe you’re one of them, have started a fitness or fat loss program, or started anything in their life, gone gung ho for a week, maybe even two or three. What happens then? Boredom, busyness and life get in the way. And you stop.
This has happened to you right?
It happens to millions of others every single year. Most notably? Yeah, you guessed it, New Years. How many people start a new fitness program, and oh boy you better believe that this is their year.
I’m tired of it.
How about this year we create a New Year’s REVOLUTION. Yes, revolution, we can finally take a stand and decide what we really want.
Here’s the thing. It’s not that you don’t want or need motivation. Rather it’s that motivation can only take you so far. What you really need is discipline.
You see you’ve really got both. Difference is? When you are dedicated to a goal you do it anyway. Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.
Ready to learn 3 secrets to rapidly developing discipline?
1. Create Your WHY
You must find out why you’re starting in the first place. You must find out the reason for doing all of this. When you’ve found what it is you want I suggest asking yourself why several times.
Here’s an example;
I want to lose weight – why – because I want to look better – why – because I’ll feel better in myself – why do you want that – because i’m not happy with how i look right now – why – because I have no energy and I can’t wear the clothes that I want – why is that a problem – I feel self-conscious that others are judging me and I can’t really do the things that I want with my life.
2. Create Your Support Network
Have you ever told somebody that you want to lose weight, or you want to make more money? Or you just want to do better?
Of course you have, we all have. I’ll bet those same people have tried to drag you back down to their level though, right?
You should come out to drink to tonight – no I can’t I’m watching my diet – oh come on you only live once, or you’re getting too skinny, you’re such a fitness freak, or let yourself go.
We’ve heard it all right?
How about this one? Why do you work so much? Because I’m making more money and building my freedom. Wanna know what they say to that one?
It’s not all about money you know, or you need to enjoy yourself too, or life isn’t all about work.
Listen, anyone who gives you these bullshit reason why you shouldn’t do something is not good for you. Sometimes it’s the people closest you. You need to make a decision.
Do you want to finally get what you want or are you happy to keep failing because you couldn’t say no? How about not needing to say no? Hanging out with people who are supportive of your goals? How about hanging out with people just like you?
You’re the average of the 5 people you hang out with the most. Hang out with 5 people who are broke or out of shape, guess what’s going to happen to you?
Find 5 like-minded people and have them keep you accountable.
3. Remind Yourself Everyday
What’s the use of having a goal is you don’t keep reminding yourself about it? If you were broke and needed money you’d think about it all the time. Why should it be any different for you now?
Exactly, it shouldn’t.
You need to keep reminding yourself what it is you’re after, and why you’re after it.
I have my goals posted on the mirrors in my two bathrooms, on my phone screensaver, in my daily journal and above all they’re etched in my mind with indelible ink.
A quick recap on the 3 ways fundamental secrets to quickly developing discipline:
- Create your why
- Create your support network
- Remind yourself everyday
Remember, discipline is greater than motivation. You’ve really got both but discipline is the only thing standing between you and your goals.
What helped you in developing discipline? Leave a comment below.